The True Measure of Happiness
Most people would judge a person who is always smiling, laughing and giggling to be a happy and jolly person. However, are the smiles and the laughter of a person enough for others to say that he is happy? Happiness is more than smiling and showing a happy facade. Remember, people are great pretenders. Some individuals may be laughing or grinning on the outside, but in the inside, their hearts are crying and in pain.
Happiness is also not measured by the status in life that an individual is in. Whoever said that the rich is happier than the poor and vice versa is wrong. The feeling of being happy is relative and the ways to attain it is different for everyone.
What Is Happiness?
Almost every person has his or her own personal search or journey to find happiness. Just like a pot of gold at the end if a rainbow, everyone tries to find it in different kinds of places, things, and people.
There is no actual and concrete definition of happiness (well, unless you philosophically define it as “the state of being happy”). Each person has his or her own version of happiness. What’s “happy” for one may still be “unhappy “for someone else, and what’s “unhappy” for someone else may already be great joy to another.
How to Be Happy
Perhaps the simplest and greatest way to lead a person to become happy is by letting go of one’s selfish desires. By ceasing to think for oneself, one begins to be happy. Sacrifice is a great step towards happiness. Although most people would say that in order to be happy, they have to do a lot of things for themselves, buy numerous material things such as clothes, gadgets, houses, cars, etc., the greatest way to be happy is to learn that it is not in pleasing oneself that man becomes happy; it is by striving to please and serve others, to try and make other people smile, that would truly make a person happy.
The material things that bring us joy are only what we can call “superficial happiness”. Admittedly, it brings us happiness, but not complete and absolute happiness. Don’t go investing too much on material things because in the end, it’s what you do, the sacrifices that you made, the people that you love and love you are the ones who can truly determine your happiness.
Dr. Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.