Let’s Boost Your Attitude for Success!
by Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
You may think that you already have a success-mindset, and perhaps you do. However, you can always benefit from strengthening that attitude and therefore increasing your chances for the success you deserve.
Try one or two of these strategies for improving your attitude for success.
Find your inspiration. Inspiration is EVERYWHERE! Discover what inspires you the most and use it to jumpstart your motivation whenever you go. Feeling inspired enables you to maintain the drive necessary to find success. Do anything you can within your power to find inspiration.
Make a list of your ultimate dreams, and then ask yourself if you’re on the right path. If you are, you’ll know that everything you’re doing will be rewarded.
If you don’t feel like you’re on the right path, perhaps it’s time for a change. Maybe there’s a deeper reason why you’ve felt a lack of motivation. Reflect on what this reason might be, and then decide on how you can renew your drive. When you’re on the right journey, you’ll feel inspired!
Surround yourself with positive people. When you’re around positive and inspiring people, you’re more likely to adopt those traits into your own personality and go for your goals with enthusiasm. Negative people, on the other hand, tend to make you negative also.
If you must be around people that continually bring you down, do your best to avoid taking what they say to heart. You know that they don’t speak the truth. Keep the peace as best as you can to get through these situations and then move on.
Take a leap. The best way to improve your attitude might be to just jump right into life. Don’t be afraid to take initiative and plunge forward towards your goals. People who take action find success. If you take action and start to see the results of your efforts, your attitude will only improve.
The increased drive and motivation you get from your actions can be the difference between success and failure.
Strengthen your focus. Your focus can also play a role in your attitude. When you maintain driven toward success, it’s easier to have an optimistic attitude. If you have a lack of focus and don’t know where you’re going, it leads to being unmotivated and uncaring.
Allow for mistakes. You’re only human and you will make mistakes from time to time. Be careful to avoid judging yourself harshly when this happens, as it negatively affects your self-confidence. If you work on more of a “go with the flow” attitude, you’ll find that you’re able to pick yourself back up and continue moving forward when you do make a mistake.
The main things to keep in mind are that the combo of inspiration, positive thoughts, and proper motivation can lead you to a healthy and positive attitude. Follow these strategies daily and you’ll notice a boost in your spirits!
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Motivation 1-2-3!
by Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
Getting yourself motivated is really easy, that is, if you talk more positively about your own self. Listen to your own thoughts. Do you talk to yourself in an angry manner? Do you need to talk to yourself more positively?
The following are basic tips and advice to help you conquer your own negative thoughts and replace them with ones that are more positive.
Be true, be honest, be you. Very often, there are moments wherein you find that talking insults and cursing yourself is a lot easier. Imagine if you talk like this to your boss or to someone that you really care about. What would they feel? Do you imagine them staying to talk or be with you more? Be kind to yourself. Believe it or not, one’s natural tendency is to give and be loved, unless you let yourself be distracted by your past negative memories. Your true self is genuinely kind. Be kind to yourself. Do not treat yourself badly. Be respectful, patient, and more understanding. If you could act that way to someone else, you certainly could treat yourself in a similar manner.
As much as possible, always be your best when talking to yourself. Doing so will make you treat others a lot better. Eventually, these same people will then react positively towards whatever it is you are to say and do. Ultimately, you will get whatever it is that you want because these people will help you.
Make yourself heard. Observe how much you go through the day with a dialogue that only you can hear. What does this dialogue say?
To motivate yourself much more effectively, make sure to put passion as well as enthusiasm into whatever it is you have to say to yourself. Put energy into every word.
Difficult? Try to imagine this. Talk to yourself the way you probably would to someone who is standing in front of you, clearly waiting to be really inspired. Now, imagine that this person is you.
Speak loud, speak with passion, and speak with excitement and enthusiasm. The fire is in you. All you have to do is release it.
Feel good even if the going gets rough. Sometimes (and this happens), even if you are clearly focused and positive about yourself, there will be days when nothing really seems to go the way you want them to.
It is during these days when you really need to hear yourself talk, more positively that is.
Make sure that you have a collection of memories or talks that you could instantly play in your brain at your easy disposal.
Music is a good example. Or, you could also use memories of those people you know who have told you how much they appreciate you. Believe it or not, your feelings will soar and you will feel motivated enough to go through the day with a song in your heart.
Overall, the choice is yours as to how much positive vibes you want to play in your brain. All you need to do is unlock your hidden nature and set it free. A human being’s natural inclination is towards evolution, not devolution.
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Be a Better Spouse
by Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
Marriage can be the greatest blessing of your life, but it takes a lot of work to maintain a close, vibrant relationship for a long time. Sometimes it seems as though the odds are against the success of your marriage.
By taking these simple steps, you can continue to experience the intimacy and fulfillment you crave within your marital relationship:
Accept your spouse’s faults. Your spouse may be perfect for you, but they will make mistakes. Everyone has their faults, and a healthy marriage relationship is built on forgiveness and an environment of safety where you can be who you are without fear. Seek to create that environment and watch your relationship blossom. Remember that having different interests is healthy. Celebrate your differences. Seek to enjoy the things your spouse is interested in, and your spouse will likely show more interest in your passions. Show that what’s important to them is important to you also, and your significant other will have no doubt that you love them.
Be willing to compromise. In marriage, it’s important to pick your battles wisely. Some of the things you do will annoy each other, but it’s important to provide the grace and compassion that makes the other person feel valued. Be willing to give up your way on the small things, and your spouse will likely reciprocate.
Ensure both parties contribute. Marriage is a two-person system. Having just one person run everything will make things challenging for both of you. Whether it’s the bills or chores around the house, divide the tasks so that you make it easy for both of you. This is also true for recreation. When deciding how to spend your time together, take turns choosing what to do. If you have a movie night, make it a double feature so that each person is guaranteed a movie that they enjoy.
The 50/50 rule is a good basis for this. With this set-up, both partners play their part in the relationship and no one is superior to the other. As it should be, both become equal partners in the relationship.
Show them that you care. A lot of times, when a couple has been together for a long time, they settle into a routine and forget the little things. Each person in the relationship assumes that the other knows how he or she feels. Instead, date your spouse like you did when you first got together. You’ll be shocked at the results.
Show your appreciation and love for your spouse in small, everyday ways. When you do this consistently, you will notice a dramatic improvement in your marriage almost overnight. Small, inexpensive, thoughtful gifts throughout the year say more about your affection than one large gift on your anniversary. Say: “thank you” and “I love you” often.
Common courtesy is king. When in doubt, use the golden rule. Treat your spouse how you wish to be treated. Be considerate and thoughtful. Always be looking for new ways to express your love.
Be supportive of your spouse. When he feels down, do what you can to let him know you stand behind him. When she’s had a rough day, pamper her and show her through your actions that she matters to you more than anyone else in this world.
Marriage can be a complicated road sometimes, but it can also be the source of tremendous happiness and joy for both of you. Start today to take small steps, commit to loving your spouse with all your heart, and savor a marriage filled with passion, excitement, and a fulfilling journey through life together.
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Bring Your Personal Goals into Reality
by Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
Do you go about your daily life just getting by from one day to the next, all the while saving your dream goals for “someday?” Wouldn’t you love to turn that “someday” into today?
Your personal goals can become reality, and sooner than you think, too! By believing in yourself and taking decisive action, even if it’s one small step at a time, you can wake up one day soon and find that you’re living the life of your dreams.
What’s your biggest reason for putting off your goals until a later date? Is it because your goals are unattainable or require a tremendous change from the life you’re living now? The good news is, even with such large goals, you can get yourself on the right track by consistently allocating a little free time toward these goals.
Here are some tips to help you achieve your goals:
Clarify your goals: Instead of thinking of your goals as vague ideas, determine exactly what you want. If you want money, how much do you want? If you want to lose weight, how much? Specify your goal in a measurable format.
Make a solid plan: The planning phase is very important. This is where you figure out how you’re going to get what you want. It’s as simple as choosing a path toward your goal and writing down each step you’ll need to take to achieve it.
Hold yourself to deadlines: Give yourself a reasonable amount of time to achieve each step and hold yourself accountable. When the going gets tough, just picture that big payoff you’ll enjoy when you get past your hurdles and achieve your goal.
Be prepared to deal with setbacks: Expect the unexpected. Sometimes, things go awry. When facing a setback, learn what you can from the situation and then fight your way back into the game. Most importantly, continue to believe in yourself. Each challenge you overcome makes you stronger.
Explore your options: Sometimes when your circumstances in life change, your priorities also change, and that’s okay! Never be afraid of reevaluating your situation and your goals. If you decide to take a different path in life, it’s your decision. Make new goals, and corresponding plans, for your new journey.
Be serious about your goals: When you feel that your goals are a priority, it’ll be easier for you to avoid procrastination. Taking your wants and needs seriously could make all the difference between reaching your goals or not.
Break your goal into smaller pieces: This tip is especially important when you’re pursuing a large goal. For example, if your goal is to go after a career that involves a great deal of specialized training, then make each type of training a goal in itself. Celebrate as you complete each step because you’re now one step closer to your dream!
Get the help you need: There are many people willing to help you reach your goals in life. Whether it’s someone to lean on to give you an extra confidence push, or someone to outsource work to, it’ll show you that you can count on others for help. With help, you can accomplish more.
It all comes down to your attitude. Once you’ve got your goals organized, if you have a positive mindset about achieving them, you’ll also have the drive necessary to keep working until you reach success. Take these strategies to heart, and live the life you desire – and deserve!
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About the Author: Dr. Brons is the Chief Learning Officer of Express Coaching™ and a working coach. Randin’s work goes far beyond the search for your life purpose – the difference is in learning to live by your own design. Visit his website at www.ajourneytojoy.com.
6 Simple Rules in Life
by Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
As a life coach I am often asked how to go about improving life in a simple manner that will bring about a positive difference. Let me tell you, life is simple and peaceful if you incorporate the following six rules into your daily routine.
Practice some quiet time everyday. Quietness of mind is the secret ingredient to a happy and successful life. Make it a regular habit to enjoy some quiet time every day. To start with set aside just 10 minutes at the start of the day. Just sit in a quiet place without paying any attention to your passing thoughts. You could pay attention only to your breathing and notice your chest and abdomen while breathing. This is not yoga, meditation, etc. This is simply a quiet time. Just ten minutes a day in the morning or night before bedtime is ideal for you to enjoy the peace within. If you make this a regular habit you would witness a better quality of life real soon.
Exercise your body and mind. Daily exercise keeps you away from mental and physical illness. Exercise keeps your body flexible, supple and strong. This leads to a balanced mind. There are plenty of good exercises you could choose from to keep yourself healthy and enjoy a long life. If you have not been exercising, you could start today. Just go for a brisk walk and feel the fresh air filling your lungs.
Eat sensibly. This area really poses a challenge for most of us. ‘You are what you eat’ is not just a mere saying. It is a fact of life. What we eat, why we eat, when we eat and how we eat are important factors related to our physical, psychological and spiritual well-being. It would be wise to choose a healthy diet and stick to it. Your goal should not only be to lose weight but also to keep it under control so that your body and mind does not bear the strain of overweight.
Choose a fulfilling profession or job. Many people have a habit of switching jobs. They do not seem to know what they are looking for. They are not sure if they are after money, challenge, job satisfaction, etc. It is important that you have clear-cut ideas of what you are looking for in a job. You should love your job in order to do it well and succeed in it. You would find fulfillment in your career only when you love your profession or job.
Maintain good relationships. Life is for sharing. Share your love and happiness with your friends and family. Learn to cherish your relationships. Respect everyone around you and develop good communication skills to establish truly valuable relationships. Relationships make your life meaningful.
Get enough sleep. Sleep restores energy. Make sure to get 6 to 8 hours of sleep each night. Deep, regular and restful mind is good for body and mind. If you have unhealthy sleeping habits get rid of them and develop good sleeping habits. Enjoy the benefits of good sleep.
When you practice these simple rules you are bound to enjoy a happy, healthy and peaceful life. Life is quite simple, really!
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About the Author: Dr. Brons is the Chief Learning Officer of Express Coaching™ and a working coach. Randin’s work goes far beyond the search for your life purpose – the difference is in learning to live by your own design. Visit his website at www.ajourneytojoy.com.
Virtual Cures
In a world that is full of modern gadgets, innovative technology and new inventions, human race has also adapted itself to the dynamic changes in the society. Humans have learned to use computers, laptops, internet, etc., and have even adjusted well enough to make these new technologies almost a normal part of their daily living.
Thanks to the new technologies that have been sprouting every now and then, a lot of traditional things, jobs and processes have been replaced by technological ones. One of the traditional things that have been attempted to replace is the process of psychotherapy.
Usually, when people have problems pertaining to emotions, behaviors, phobias, etc., they are usually referred to see a psychologist or psychiatrist. However, due to the availability of new technologies and inventions, traditional psychotherapy methods have been challenged by the emergence of virtual reality therapy.
What Is Virtual Reality Therapy?
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Avoid Stress!
Stress has become part of modern human life. It is here to stay unless we start making minor changes to work around it. Stress is taxing on your body and mind and has long term effects. Stress is also said to reduce life span. But have you ever wondered why we get stressed out? What is it that we’re doing wrong?
Stress is the outcome of over work, constant thinking and burdening of the mind, and lack of rest and relaxation. Your mind and body are like machines, they get heated up with over work, they shutdown when work is unusually heavy. What are we working so hard for? Isn’t it for money? Why do we need money? So that we can afford those things in life which give us pleasure. But if we don’t have the time to enjoy, then what’s the use of money?
Getting Away from Shyness
Quite often, I am asked about shyness and what can be done to assist one to “get over it.” There are many individuals who find fighting shyness a continual battle. So first, let’s define just what shyness is. Shyness is defined as an inhibition from contact or acquaintance with others. It is scientifically stated as an uncomfortable feeling towards some personal and interpersonal orientation that hinders the pursuit of goals.
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Handle Difficult People With Ease
Whether you admit it or not, they are everywhere; and no matter how hard you try to steer clear of these kinds of people, there’s always a high risk of bumping into them. They can be in your school, workplace, community, or maybe in your family. Learning to cope with difficult people is absolutely considered a skill. Not everyone has the aptitude to deal with them without losing their wits.
Below are some tips that will help you keep your cool and your cards intact the next time you get to encounter complex people.
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