Motivation 1-2-3!
by Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
Getting yourself motivated is really easy, that is, if you talk more positively about your own self. Listen to your own thoughts. Do you talk to yourself in an angry manner? Do you need to talk to yourself more positively?
The following are basic tips and advice to help you conquer your own negative thoughts and replace them with ones that are more positive.
Be true, be honest, be you. Very often, there are moments wherein you find that talking insults and cursing yourself is a lot easier. Imagine if you talk like this to your boss or to someone that you really care about. What would they feel? Do you imagine them staying to talk or be with you more? Be kind to yourself. Believe it or not, one’s natural tendency is to give and be loved, unless you let yourself be distracted by your past negative memories. Your true self is genuinely kind. Be kind to yourself. Do not treat yourself badly. Be respectful, patient, and more understanding. If you could act that way to someone else, you certainly could treat yourself in a similar manner.
As much as possible, always be your best when talking to yourself. Doing so will make you treat others a lot better. Eventually, these same people will then react positively towards whatever it is you are to say and do. Ultimately, you will get whatever it is that you want because these people will help you.
Make yourself heard. Observe how much you go through the day with a dialogue that only you can hear. What does this dialogue say?
To motivate yourself much more effectively, make sure to put passion as well as enthusiasm into whatever it is you have to say to yourself. Put energy into every word.
Difficult? Try to imagine this. Talk to yourself the way you probably would to someone who is standing in front of you, clearly waiting to be really inspired. Now, imagine that this person is you.
Speak loud, speak with passion, and speak with excitement and enthusiasm. The fire is in you. All you have to do is release it.
Feel good even if the going gets rough. Sometimes (and this happens), even if you are clearly focused and positive about yourself, there will be days when nothing really seems to go the way you want them to.
It is during these days when you really need to hear yourself talk, more positively that is.
Make sure that you have a collection of memories or talks that you could instantly play in your brain at your easy disposal.
Music is a good example. Or, you could also use memories of those people you know who have told you how much they appreciate you. Believe it or not, your feelings will soar and you will feel motivated enough to go through the day with a song in your heart.
Overall, the choice is yours as to how much positive vibes you want to play in your brain. All you need to do is unlock your hidden nature and set it free. A human being’s natural inclination is towards evolution, not devolution.
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Four Common Self-Sabotaging Tactics
by Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
There are four common self-sabotaging tactics that you should avoid at all cost.
Do you find yourself repeating behaviors that sabotage your success? Are you ready to put your limiting behavior to rest in favor of a better outlook and greater fulfillment?
The first step to the success you crave is being able to recognize the limiting beliefs that stand in the way of your success. Once you do, you can banish those beliefs in favor of more empowering ones. Become aware of these self-sabotaging thoughts and beliefs that you hold so you can replace them with more productive thoughts that support your success:
Settling for less than your best causes you to stop short of unleashing your fullest potential. Sometimes you settle for less because you’re scared of encountering failure. Other times, you may settle simply because you lack awareness of your own strength.
Test your strength constantly by going out of your comfort zone. Face your fears, because more often than not, your fear is the only obstacle between you and ultimate success.
Expecting too much from others. When you automatically expect help from others, or anticipate that others will bail you out of a tough situation, you’re expecting too much. You are only responsible for yourself. Even if your friends and family have helped you in the past, they may choose to let you fend for yourself this time around. Always be prepared to suffer the consequences of your actions and clean up your own mess. Choose a more sensible path that takes into account that you may journey to your destination alone.
Do you feel sorry for yourself? If your current situation causes you to feel like something’s missing, change your circumstances. Instead of dwelling on what could have been and focusing on the unfortunate hand you’ve been dealt, seek to learn from every experience and focus on solutions, instead of problems.
Your success is your responsibility. Hold yourself accountable for your results and allow unfortunate situations to steer you toward success, instead of deterring you from achieving your dreams. By maintaining this mindset, even your worst trial will be far better than remaining on the sidelines of life.
Lack of a back-up plan can be a problem. If your initial plan gives less than desired results, your only chance at success is your ability to adapt. Everyone needs a Plan B. You may feel like a pessimist by planning for an unfortunate outcome, but this planning is actually proactive. It shows your mind that you’re serious about reaching your desired destination. Ensure your financial security, mental health, and well-being by always planning for the worst while hoping for the best.
If you often find yourself creating any of these self-sabotaging behaviors that hinder your chances of success, decide that today is going to be a new day.
The important thing is that you recognize the thought patterns and behaviors that limit you and head in a new direction that supports your success.
Replace unproductive ways of thinking with a more productive, solution-oriented focus that tells your mind you deserve the success you seek. When you do, your success is inevitable.
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Be a Better Spouse
by Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
Marriage can be the greatest blessing of your life, but it takes a lot of work to maintain a close, vibrant relationship for a long time. Sometimes it seems as though the odds are against the success of your marriage.
By taking these simple steps, you can continue to experience the intimacy and fulfillment you crave within your marital relationship:
Accept your spouse’s faults. Your spouse may be perfect for you, but they will make mistakes. Everyone has their faults, and a healthy marriage relationship is built on forgiveness and an environment of safety where you can be who you are without fear. Seek to create that environment and watch your relationship blossom. Remember that having different interests is healthy. Celebrate your differences. Seek to enjoy the things your spouse is interested in, and your spouse will likely show more interest in your passions. Show that what’s important to them is important to you also, and your significant other will have no doubt that you love them.
Be willing to compromise. In marriage, it’s important to pick your battles wisely. Some of the things you do will annoy each other, but it’s important to provide the grace and compassion that makes the other person feel valued. Be willing to give up your way on the small things, and your spouse will likely reciprocate.
Ensure both parties contribute. Marriage is a two-person system. Having just one person run everything will make things challenging for both of you. Whether it’s the bills or chores around the house, divide the tasks so that you make it easy for both of you. This is also true for recreation. When deciding how to spend your time together, take turns choosing what to do. If you have a movie night, make it a double feature so that each person is guaranteed a movie that they enjoy.
The 50/50 rule is a good basis for this. With this set-up, both partners play their part in the relationship and no one is superior to the other. As it should be, both become equal partners in the relationship.
Show them that you care. A lot of times, when a couple has been together for a long time, they settle into a routine and forget the little things. Each person in the relationship assumes that the other knows how he or she feels. Instead, date your spouse like you did when you first got together. You’ll be shocked at the results.
Show your appreciation and love for your spouse in small, everyday ways. When you do this consistently, you will notice a dramatic improvement in your marriage almost overnight. Small, inexpensive, thoughtful gifts throughout the year say more about your affection than one large gift on your anniversary. Say: “thank you” and “I love you” often.
Common courtesy is king. When in doubt, use the golden rule. Treat your spouse how you wish to be treated. Be considerate and thoughtful. Always be looking for new ways to express your love.
Be supportive of your spouse. When he feels down, do what you can to let him know you stand behind him. When she’s had a rough day, pamper her and show her through your actions that she matters to you more than anyone else in this world.
Marriage can be a complicated road sometimes, but it can also be the source of tremendous happiness and joy for both of you. Start today to take small steps, commit to loving your spouse with all your heart, and savor a marriage filled with passion, excitement, and a fulfilling journey through life together.
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Tips To Get You To Where You Want To Be
by Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
While you should strive to make your dreams come true, concentrate, on yourself and your journey. When you spend less time wishing things were different and more time accepting what you’ve got, you’ve already found a sense of peace and happiness right there.
Dr. Joe Vitale, renowned motivational speaker and author, often says: “the fastest way to get where you want is to be happy with where you are.” Believe it or not, this mindset really works! It may take some changes and soul searching on your part, but in the end, it’ll be more than worth it to adopt this positive mentality.
Here are some tips that can help you become who you want to be right now:
Feel gratitude. When you concentrate on the big picture, it’s easier to exhibit feelings of gratitude. When you’re grateful, you remain positive and appreciative of every joyful moment in life. Sometimes people get too caught up in a sense of entitlement, which leads to negative feelings. Concentrating on gratitude, instead, will get you where you desire.
Be optimistic. Some say that life is all about optimism. And it’s true! An optimistic attitude is one of the few things you need to succeed. If you’re trying to achieve a concrete goal, optimism will help you accomplish it. If you’re trying to change your mindset, optimism will make the task easier. Optimism can be the driving force that keeps you going.
Exhibit the traits you desire. It was Gandhi who said that you should be the change you want to see in the world. With these wise words in mind, you can replace wanting with some bold action. With some persistence and perseverance, you can make it happen.
Adopt a prosperous mindset. Take a moment to determine what prosperity means to you. Are you hoping for money, a fulfilling career, or a relationship that lasts a lifetime? Know what you want, then adopt the right mindset. Once you do, you’ve then set yourself in the right direction toward your goals.
Find the silver lining. As you go through life, you will no doubt realize that things are not always going to go your way. But even in tough times you need to keep your chin up. Instead of allowing negativity to consume your life, seek out the silver lining. This fresh attitude can be the difference between being held hostage and achieving your goals.
Take small steps. When the place you’re going seems far away and unachievable, it’s important to break it down into small steps. Give yourself an achievable goal with a realistic time frame. Break that one down into smaller goals. When you avoid getting overwhelmed, you’ll gain the confidence to persevere.
You’re Already There! It’s a good idea to practice one of these tips at a time until you’ve incorporated them into your life. Perhaps you can spend a week perfecting one strategy and, then the next week, add another one to your repertoire while continuing with the first one. Soon enough, you’ll be a natural at all of them!
Once you choose a powerful and positive mindset, you’ll find that you’ve already achieved much of what you want. Just remember: You already have the traits, mindset, and lifestyle you desire, and you know that success is inevitable, but only when you have the will to break through the obstacles in your mind!
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Bring Your Personal Goals into Reality
by Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
Do you go about your daily life just getting by from one day to the next, all the while saving your dream goals for “someday?” Wouldn’t you love to turn that “someday” into today?
Your personal goals can become reality, and sooner than you think, too! By believing in yourself and taking decisive action, even if it’s one small step at a time, you can wake up one day soon and find that you’re living the life of your dreams.
What’s your biggest reason for putting off your goals until a later date? Is it because your goals are unattainable or require a tremendous change from the life you’re living now? The good news is, even with such large goals, you can get yourself on the right track by consistently allocating a little free time toward these goals.
Here are some tips to help you achieve your goals:
Clarify your goals: Instead of thinking of your goals as vague ideas, determine exactly what you want. If you want money, how much do you want? If you want to lose weight, how much? Specify your goal in a measurable format.
Make a solid plan: The planning phase is very important. This is where you figure out how you’re going to get what you want. It’s as simple as choosing a path toward your goal and writing down each step you’ll need to take to achieve it.
Hold yourself to deadlines: Give yourself a reasonable amount of time to achieve each step and hold yourself accountable. When the going gets tough, just picture that big payoff you’ll enjoy when you get past your hurdles and achieve your goal.
Be prepared to deal with setbacks: Expect the unexpected. Sometimes, things go awry. When facing a setback, learn what you can from the situation and then fight your way back into the game. Most importantly, continue to believe in yourself. Each challenge you overcome makes you stronger.
Explore your options: Sometimes when your circumstances in life change, your priorities also change, and that’s okay! Never be afraid of reevaluating your situation and your goals. If you decide to take a different path in life, it’s your decision. Make new goals, and corresponding plans, for your new journey.
Be serious about your goals: When you feel that your goals are a priority, it’ll be easier for you to avoid procrastination. Taking your wants and needs seriously could make all the difference between reaching your goals or not.
Break your goal into smaller pieces: This tip is especially important when you’re pursuing a large goal. For example, if your goal is to go after a career that involves a great deal of specialized training, then make each type of training a goal in itself. Celebrate as you complete each step because you’re now one step closer to your dream!
Get the help you need: There are many people willing to help you reach your goals in life. Whether it’s someone to lean on to give you an extra confidence push, or someone to outsource work to, it’ll show you that you can count on others for help. With help, you can accomplish more.
It all comes down to your attitude. Once you’ve got your goals organized, if you have a positive mindset about achieving them, you’ll also have the drive necessary to keep working until you reach success. Take these strategies to heart, and live the life you desire – and deserve!
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About the Author: Dr. Brons is the Chief Learning Officer of Express Coaching™ and a working coach. Randin’s work goes far beyond the search for your life purpose – the difference is in learning to live by your own design. Visit his website at www.ajourneytojoy.com.
How Do You Define Failure?
by Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
What do you think when you hear the word failure? You probably are thinking that you’re not good enough and that you should give up.
While failure can involve those thoughts and emotions, failure can also make us stronger or wiser. A simple definition of failure is: An act or instance of failing or proving unsuccessful; lack of success.
When I think of this definition of failure, I’m reminded of Thomas Edison, the inventor of the light bulb. While there are many conflicting stories of how many times Edison “failed” at inventing the electric light bulb, most agree it was in the thousands before he found the right combination of materials.
One of Edison’s most famous quotes is, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. I am not discouraged because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward.” If you adopt this same attitude, you’ll overcome your feelings of failure and be able to see your dreams and desires come to fruition.
Robert Schuller stated these famous words, “Failure doesn’t mean you’re a failure; it just means you haven’t succeeded yet.” Henry Ford said, “Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.”
When you consider those words from these wise and successful people, you’ll truly begin to understand the power of failure. The truth is, you only fail when you give up! When you keep trying until you’ve found the answer or the solution, you’re successful. You’d never say Thomas Edison, Robert Schuller or Henry Ford were failures would you? Sure, they were unsuccessful many, many times, but they didn’t give up until they found the answer, the right procedure or the right materials to solve their dilemma.
In case those quotes weren’t enough to make you believe failure has a positive power and strength, here are some more you might relate to:
“Failure is an event, never a person.” – William D. Brown. The next time you try your hand at something and don’t achieve the desired result immediately, remember failure is an event; it’s not you.
Bill Cosby also said it well when he said, “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” If you’re trying to please everyone, you can’t possibly succeed!
“Never confuse a single defeat with final defeat.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald
“You can’t have any successes until you can accept failures.” – George Cukor
Just because you’ve failed once, twice or 10,000 times at something, it doesn’t mean you’re a failure. You only fail when you stop trying.
Still not convinced? How about this:
“You always pass failure on your way to success.” – Mickey Rooney. What do these words mean to you? No matter what you’re trying to succeed at, whether it’s a sport, project, career, invention, or at school, there will be times when you don’t succeed. But you mustn’t let that stop you from reaching your goals, dreams, and desires.
The common thread among all these famous people and their wise words is the same. You can’t have success without failure. Never give up and never stop trying. There is power in failure, you just have to give yourself a chance.
Keep trying, keep failing and soon you’ll find true success!
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About the Author: Dr. Brons is the Chief Learning Officer of Express Coaching™ and a working coach. Randin’s work goes far beyond the search for your life purpose – the difference is in learning to live by your own design. Visit his website at www.ajourneytojoy.com.
The Power of Action
by Evie Harrison, C.L.C., M.S.L.C.
Have you read all the books in the world about achieving success in life and till now you are getting zero results? How and when will you see significant changes in your life? Are you brave enough to keep going and never quitting?
If yes then, let me share with you the important factor that is tightly connected to success. No body can ever succeed without this factor.
Here it is:
“Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.” – Conrad Hilton
It is all about taking action!
Have you applied what you’ve read? Have you taken bold actions? Are you persistent enough?
The common characteristics of highly successful people are that they never quit and they always keep moving.
They are not afraid of making mistakes. They believe that mistakes are their vehicle to massive success. Therefore, they simply learn the lessons and keep moving.
If you are in a journey and discovered that you lost your way, stopping will not take you anywhere. You have to choose another direction and keep moving.
Being in motion is the only way that will allow you to reach your destination. You can take shortcuts, you can take a faster vehicle, or you can get a map to identify the shortest path. Whatever you choose to do, the most important thing is to keep moving and take action.
Successful people are action-oriented. They work very hard, they are determined, and they are focused.
To rise above mediocrity, learn from your mistakes, keep moving and never quit. This is your secret formula to taking powerful actions that will lead you to achieve massive success in your life.
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About the Author: Evie Harrison, C.L.C., M.S.L.C., is a Certified LIFE Coach and Master SPIRIT LIFE Coach who specializes in Career Coaching within the private sector. Evie has been a long-time graduate and friend of Express Coaching™ and we appreciate her return to our newsletter. You can contact the author through our corporate email: rhema-int@shaw.ca.
6 Simple Rules in Life
by Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
As a life coach I am often asked how to go about improving life in a simple manner that will bring about a positive difference. Let me tell you, life is simple and peaceful if you incorporate the following six rules into your daily routine.
Practice some quiet time everyday. Quietness of mind is the secret ingredient to a happy and successful life. Make it a regular habit to enjoy some quiet time every day. To start with set aside just 10 minutes at the start of the day. Just sit in a quiet place without paying any attention to your passing thoughts. You could pay attention only to your breathing and notice your chest and abdomen while breathing. This is not yoga, meditation, etc. This is simply a quiet time. Just ten minutes a day in the morning or night before bedtime is ideal for you to enjoy the peace within. If you make this a regular habit you would witness a better quality of life real soon.
Exercise your body and mind. Daily exercise keeps you away from mental and physical illness. Exercise keeps your body flexible, supple and strong. This leads to a balanced mind. There are plenty of good exercises you could choose from to keep yourself healthy and enjoy a long life. If you have not been exercising, you could start today. Just go for a brisk walk and feel the fresh air filling your lungs.
Eat sensibly. This area really poses a challenge for most of us. ‘You are what you eat’ is not just a mere saying. It is a fact of life. What we eat, why we eat, when we eat and how we eat are important factors related to our physical, psychological and spiritual well-being. It would be wise to choose a healthy diet and stick to it. Your goal should not only be to lose weight but also to keep it under control so that your body and mind does not bear the strain of overweight.
Choose a fulfilling profession or job. Many people have a habit of switching jobs. They do not seem to know what they are looking for. They are not sure if they are after money, challenge, job satisfaction, etc. It is important that you have clear-cut ideas of what you are looking for in a job. You should love your job in order to do it well and succeed in it. You would find fulfillment in your career only when you love your profession or job.
Maintain good relationships. Life is for sharing. Share your love and happiness with your friends and family. Learn to cherish your relationships. Respect everyone around you and develop good communication skills to establish truly valuable relationships. Relationships make your life meaningful.
Get enough sleep. Sleep restores energy. Make sure to get 6 to 8 hours of sleep each night. Deep, regular and restful mind is good for body and mind. If you have unhealthy sleeping habits get rid of them and develop good sleeping habits. Enjoy the benefits of good sleep.
When you practice these simple rules you are bound to enjoy a happy, healthy and peaceful life. Life is quite simple, really!
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About the Author: Dr. Brons is the Chief Learning Officer of Express Coaching™ and a working coach. Randin’s work goes far beyond the search for your life purpose – the difference is in learning to live by your own design. Visit his website at www.ajourneytojoy.com.
The True Measure of Happiness
Most people would judge a person who is always smiling, laughing and giggling to be a happy and jolly person. However, are the smiles and the laughter of a person enough for others to say that he is happy? Happiness is more than smiling and showing a happy facade. Remember, people are great pretenders. Some individuals may be laughing or grinning on the outside, but in the inside, their hearts are crying and in pain.
Happiness is also not measured by the status in life that an individual is in. Whoever said that the rich is happier than the poor and vice versa is wrong. The feeling of being happy is relative and the ways to attain it is different for everyone.
What Is Happiness?
Almost every person has his or her own personal search or journey to find happiness. Just like a pot of gold at the end if a rainbow, everyone tries to find it in different kinds of places, things, and people.
There is no actual and concrete definition of happiness (well, unless you philosophically define it as “the state of being happy”). Each person has his or her own version of happiness. What’s “happy” for one may still be “unhappy “for someone else, and what’s “unhappy” for someone else may already be great joy to another.
How to Be Happy
Perhaps the simplest and greatest way to lead a person to become happy is by letting go of one’s selfish desires. By ceasing to think for oneself, one begins to be happy. Sacrifice is a great step towards happiness. Although most people would say that in order to be happy, they have to do a lot of things for themselves, buy numerous material things such as clothes, gadgets, houses, cars, etc., the greatest way to be happy is to learn that it is not in pleasing oneself that man becomes happy; it is by striving to please and serve others, to try and make other people smile, that would truly make a person happy.
The material things that bring us joy are only what we can call “superficial happiness”. Admittedly, it brings us happiness, but not complete and absolute happiness. Don’t go investing too much on material things because in the end, it’s what you do, the sacrifices that you made, the people that you love and love you are the ones who can truly determine your happiness.
For now,
Dr. Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
About the Author: Dr. Brons is the Chief Learning Officer of Express Coaching™ and a working coach. Randin’s work goes far beyond the search for your life purpose – the difference is in learning to live by your own design. Visit his website at www.ajourneytojoy.com.
Million Dollar Mentor
by Dr. Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
There is one way – a way that is faster – a way that is more helpful – a way that is less lonely – to become successful than the trial and error way. That way is to simply adopt a mentor.
For those who may be asking, “But what if I can’t find a mentor that will agree to mentor me?” Well, here’s a little secret.
Your mentor doesn’t even have to know. That’s right. It’s possible to have a mentor without ever even meeting him/her. This will require a little more attention to details of your mentor’s life. This is called an informal mentor. But even though it’s informal, it can be very powerful.
Of course, if you can find a mentor that will ‘take you under his/her wing’ that’s great too! But it’s not 100% necessary.
Here are a few things you will want to look for when choosing a mentor for yourself.
- Trust. After meeting or researching your mentor, you must decide if you can trust this person. If you can, you’ll want to move on to the next step in the selection process.
- Respect. Once you’ve decided on your mentor, there must be a mutual respect between the two of you (this is for the one-on-one mentorship). If your mentor ends up not respecting you, or if you don’t respect him/her, then the relationship is over. This is not usually a problem. It doesn’t happen often.
- Drive. Make sure your mentor has a drive to see that you succeed. You should know this after about 3 meetings. For those who are choosing an informal mentor, your research will reveal the drive. But chances are you’re not going to choose someone who isn’t successful. That person probably wouldn’t be successful unless they have drive.
- Direction. Your mentor should show you direction, either by telling you or by his/her actions. Your mentor will make suggestions, give examples and offer constructive criticism. This information can cut years off learning something vital to business and/or life. It is imperative to take the information into consideration. It could change your life.
There are two things that are important to note when speaking about mentors:
- When choosing an informal mentor, you want to get your hands on everything that your chosen mentor has written or recorded. This way, you will get to know him/her as well as possible. That will help you determine how your mentor would make decisions and will help you succeed faster.
- Another little secret about choosing mentors is you don’t have to limit it to one. That’s right! You can have more than one mentor. It may be a good idea to have more than one just from having a different perspective in any particular situation.
Now, start your list. Who will be your mentor(s)?
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About the Author: Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C., is the current Chief Learning Officer of Express Coaching™ and a working life coach. Randin specializes in working with individuals to regain a sense of control over their lives … dreams and future. The power of Randin’s work goes far beyond the search for your life purpose – the difference is in learning how to live by your own design. You can contact the author through our corporate email: rhema-int@shaw.ca. Visit his Website www.ajourneytojoy.com to find out more about his unique gift and work.
F.O.C.U.S.
Faith
Faith means to believe. In fact, the Bible says that faith is the evidence of things unseen. By using that definition, you can know that you don’t even have to see it to believe it. If you have a place you see yourself, but you’re not there yet, believe without a shadow of a doubt that you will reach that place, and you will. It’s called faith. But you must have unwaivering faith that you will achieve it. Do not get discouraged because it’s not happening fast enough. Faith = Believe and belief comes with hard core focus. Do not lose site of the goal.
Openness
To become successful – whatever that means to you – there is a universal principle that must be adopted in almost every area of your life. That principle can be called openness. Open to what? Good question. To everything really. That means being open to points of views that you would not necessarily agree with. That means being open to deals that may not seem attractive at first. You have to be open to:
- letting go
- embracing
- loving
- meeting new people
- disappointment
- success
- stretching
- loyalty
- loss
The point is, being open to everything is crucial. Expect no surprises. That way, when you ARE surprised, you’ll be able and more prepared to deal with it – good or bad.
Celebrate
While on the journey of success – and it is a journey – you’ve got to learn to celebrate. Celebrate your successes. That’s easy! Also, celebrate your trials, frustrations and trips ups. Why? You’re learning. Now, admittedly, celebrating during this process is a bit more difficult. It’s not natural to celebrate in any kind of negative mood.
But you could look at it as a silver lining. Even though you’re going through a particular frustration, you can always find comfort in the fact that you’ll have more information when dealing with a similar situation in the future. Focus on the future and the fact that you have more ammunition for success now.
Understand
Understand that focus is essential to getting what you want. How many times have you started an exercise program but never finished? How many times have you started a diet but never followed through? How many New Year’s resolutions have you set? How many have you completed?
Understanding focus is one of the main keys to success is a huge mindset to anchor. If you really understand it, you know that just the ‘knowing’ is not enough. Focus is a verb. And for it to effective means you have to – well. . . focus.
Focus means to cultivate a laser beam attention to the task at hand. Distractions can not enter and anything that will keep you from accomplishing your goal does not exist.
Understand that and you understand the essence of focus.
Success
Faith, Openness, Celebration and Understanding leads to Success. Once you’ve experienced success, don’t take it for granted. If you take it for granted, chances are you have no idea how you achieved the goal you were after.
Take a look back on your path up to your success and I bet you’ll find most of these points of achievement above.
Here’s to your success!
For now,
Dr. Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
About the Author: Dr. Brons is the Chief Learning Officer of Express Coaching™ and a working coach. Randin’s work goes far beyond the search for your life purpose – the difference is in learning to live by your own design. Visit his website at www.ajourneytojoy.com.
How to Discover Your Talents
You’ll never know what you’re truly good at until you give different things a try. When you take action to find your strengths, you just might surprise yourself. Perhaps there’s something you’ve always wanted to try, but you think that you wouldn’t be any good at it. You simply won’t know until you try!
When you discover your talents, it can be an eye opening and fulfilling experience for you. The things you’re good at are often things you enjoy doing the most. Your talents could even stem into a full-blown career where you wouldn’t only be helping yourself, you’d be helping others too. Read more
Self Motivation
There are three categories of people. The non-achievers, the achievers and there are the self-motivated people. Sometimes even the achievers may fail to do something but a self motivated individual draws inspiration from failures to make success stories. A self motivated person will always have his confidence levels shooting through the roof and the world is his oyster.
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How to Learn Faster
Did you know you can learn faster than you do now? Not only can you learn faster, if you want to, you can help others to learn faster as well.
If you’re a parent, in management, a trainer or a coach, this can be invaluable for you while working with others.
The first thing to realize is that not everyone processes information the same. That means we all learn differently. For the most part, we have three ways of processing and learning.
The main three learning processes are:
Why Peer Pressure?
Remember what your teenager usually says when he reaches a certain point in his life? “Mom, I want a PS 3. Everyone in school has one!” “Dad, please let me go to the party or I’ll be the laughingstock of the whole school! Everyone will think I’m so uncool!” “Mom, I need to have my hair cut this way because it’s the hot new look!”
Harmless? Yes, but in some ways, it is also distressing given the pattern his requests and desires are following. Your teenager is going through a certain phase in life, and with it comes trying to fit in, doing what everyone else is doing, or wanting to buy something or look a certain way just to be considered “cool.” Peer pressure is a vicious beast and can truly transform the way your teenager is behaving. Read more
Practical Tips on How to Keep a Job
Finding a good and decent job is tough; but maintaining one proves to be tougher. There are several factors that make a job a lot difficult to deal with, and these include your relationship with your workmates, your professional relationship with your superiors, your own personal motives, and, of course, your work attitude.
However, everything will eventually depend on your own perceptions, work response, and outlook. Having a selfish motive when you are at work will make you perform in unacceptable ways, like when you talk ill about a co-worker just to get ahead. Needless to say, an attitude like this will lead you to stagnant growth, making the whole of your career miserable. Read more
Learning to Concentrate and Focus
No matter who you are or what your occupation may be, you will need to learn how to concentrate and focus. You could be a student, or an office worker, or even someone involved in manual labor such as a construction worker but one thing is sure – you will need to devote time and energy to concentration and focus on your occupation.
But first of all, just what is concentration? Concentration is defined as deep mental application towards something. If you are concentrating on something, you devote all your attention to it. Read more
Be a Professional
You are, at any given time, a son/daughter, sibling, parent or friend to someone else and as such, you carry on a ‘role’ that suits your relationship. When you work for someone or with someone, you are expected to put on a different persona other than these existing ones – that of being a professional. It is not as easy to be one though as being a professional doesn’t come naturally.
Being a professional means that you carry a responsibility given by the company. It trusts you to do your job and to do it the best way that you can. Deadlines should be met. Work should be beyond reproach. Attitude and PR should always conform to the company’s standard. Keep this as a mantra whenever you have to do work regardless of your personal feelings. Say for example, your job is to answer questions on your company products and a customer kept on badgering you with endless questions on it. You have to be patient and answer the questions until the customer is satisfied; that’s part of your job. Retain a grip on your temper and find ways to keep your cool even if you feel like bashing the person’s head with a pipe. That’s what a professional should do.
Who’s Your Role Model?
When we were kids, we all had our own set of idols and role models, right? Some of us wanted to be a superhero, some of us wanted to be Barbie, while some dreamed of being a doctor, a teacher or a President.
As we grew older, perhaps our role models have changed. However, one fact remains the same. We still have our own role model, someone that we look up to and desire to emulate.
Each person has his or her own role model, and it doesn’t really matter whether the person is dead or alive, famous or not. What matters most is how a certain person affects or inspires another to become a better human being.
Think You Can!
How many times did you say to yourself: “I can’t do this.”?
This statement has destroyed lots of dreams, hopes and aspirations. This statement was rooted in our minds when we were kids, and kept reinforced as we grow up. This statement became the common excuse that people use to quit their dreams and goals.
You should remove this statement from you dictionary.
The reality is that YOU CAN. Your potential is limitless, and you are equipped with all what you need to succeed and fulfill your destiny.
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Managing Time
Many people often complain that they can’t do everything at the same time since they don’t have the time. But the truth is, they do have the time. They just don’t know how to put things in perspective. In other words, they just don’t know how to prioritize what they have to do.
There are actually three rules to effective time management. First is to never create impossible situations. Do things that are realistically set, and that you can finish in less time. Second is that people need to define priorities. List the most important thing that you need to do for the day, and finish that one first. The succeeding things that you need to do should come in second, third, or fourth. Lastly, it is best if people avoid distractions and concentrate more on what they have to do. Avoiding distractions means avoiding the things normal people love doing, such as watching television, surfing the internet, going out with friends or playing the computer.
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How to Boost Your Memory
Although many things about the brain are still unsolved mysteries, we’ve learned a lot about memory.
Did you know your brain is made up of 100 billion neurons? As you grow up, develop, and gain wisdom from life experiences, these neurons become connected to each other and they communicate through these connections.
Memories are formed when certain neuron connections in the brain are strengthened by an event. Even though our brain takes in everything, if we don’t strengthen these connections, we tend to forget.
How can you improve your memory?
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How to Become Influential
Influence is one of the most motivating factors in decision making. When you have a major decision to make, what are the influences that drive you to a final decision? It’s normal to base any big decisions you make on how it will affect your loved ones. In essence, you could say that those closest to you have a lot of influence on the decisions you make in life.
Influence is the capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behavior of someone or something.
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Reaching the Top
Many of you have probably heard of people inching their way slowly to the top, gradually overcoming obstacles on their way and struggling with as much effort as they can to reach one of the highest peaks in the world, Mount Everest. Or maybe you have heard of people who overcame all hardships and adversities in their lives who made a difference in the world. People such as Marie Curie, Thomas Edison, the Wright Brothers, Walt Disney, Neil Armstrong and Amelia Earhart have all contributed to the idea of success we all possess and aim for today.
But what is their secret to their success? What made them different from the rest of us? Read more
Why Foreign Language Training is Essential
People who want to totally immerse themselves and have a first-hand experience of certain cultures should first learn how to speak and live other languages no matter how foreign these languages are to them.
Learning a foreign language may be difficult, but the satisfaction and the benefit one gets upon learning the foreign language is definitely worth the effort. Learning a foreign language can be both psychologically and financially rewarding.
The world is becoming more globalized each day that it is imperative that we are able to understand the languages spoken by people from other countries. People of a proud nation should not hesitate to learn and master foreign languages because countries no longer have borders. Of course, countries all over the world literally have borders; but technically speaking, we are now a borderless world.
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The P’s of Personal Success
Success can be elusive. It can find its way out of our lives. Why? Well part of the reason why is because we ‘settle’. We allow answers, solutions and circumstances to enter our lives that are not congruent with who we really are.
For example, we may be asking for ‘the answer’ to a desired relationship. Or we may be praying for a ‘solution’ to a financial situation. But when that relationship comes in the form of a person that may or may not be ‘the right person’, we settle.
And if that ‘financial solution’ comes in the form of a J-O-B … when it’s not the kind of work we know we’re cut out for, we settle. Read more
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