Four Common Self-Sabotaging Tactics
by Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
There are four common self-sabotaging tactics that you should avoid at all cost.
Do you find yourself repeating behaviors that sabotage your success? Are you ready to put your limiting behavior to rest in favor of a better outlook and greater fulfillment?
The first step to the success you crave is being able to recognize the limiting beliefs that stand in the way of your success. Once you do, you can banish those beliefs in favor of more empowering ones. Become aware of these self-sabotaging thoughts and beliefs that you hold so you can replace them with more productive thoughts that support your success:
Settling for less than your best causes you to stop short of unleashing your fullest potential. Sometimes you settle for less because you’re scared of encountering failure. Other times, you may settle simply because you lack awareness of your own strength.
Test your strength constantly by going out of your comfort zone. Face your fears, because more often than not, your fear is the only obstacle between you and ultimate success.
Expecting too much from others. When you automatically expect help from others, or anticipate that others will bail you out of a tough situation, you’re expecting too much. You are only responsible for yourself. Even if your friends and family have helped you in the past, they may choose to let you fend for yourself this time around. Always be prepared to suffer the consequences of your actions and clean up your own mess. Choose a more sensible path that takes into account that you may journey to your destination alone.
Do you feel sorry for yourself? If your current situation causes you to feel like something’s missing, change your circumstances. Instead of dwelling on what could have been and focusing on the unfortunate hand you’ve been dealt, seek to learn from every experience and focus on solutions, instead of problems.
Your success is your responsibility. Hold yourself accountable for your results and allow unfortunate situations to steer you toward success, instead of deterring you from achieving your dreams. By maintaining this mindset, even your worst trial will be far better than remaining on the sidelines of life.
Lack of a back-up plan can be a problem. If your initial plan gives less than desired results, your only chance at success is your ability to adapt. Everyone needs a Plan B. You may feel like a pessimist by planning for an unfortunate outcome, but this planning is actually proactive. It shows your mind that you’re serious about reaching your desired destination. Ensure your financial security, mental health, and well-being by always planning for the worst while hoping for the best.
If you often find yourself creating any of these self-sabotaging behaviors that hinder your chances of success, decide that today is going to be a new day.
The important thing is that you recognize the thought patterns and behaviors that limit you and head in a new direction that supports your success.
Replace unproductive ways of thinking with a more productive, solution-oriented focus that tells your mind you deserve the success you seek. When you do, your success is inevitable.
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Bring Your Personal Goals into Reality
by Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
Do you go about your daily life just getting by from one day to the next, all the while saving your dream goals for “someday?” Wouldn’t you love to turn that “someday” into today?
Your personal goals can become reality, and sooner than you think, too! By believing in yourself and taking decisive action, even if it’s one small step at a time, you can wake up one day soon and find that you’re living the life of your dreams.
What’s your biggest reason for putting off your goals until a later date? Is it because your goals are unattainable or require a tremendous change from the life you’re living now? The good news is, even with such large goals, you can get yourself on the right track by consistently allocating a little free time toward these goals.
Here are some tips to help you achieve your goals:
Clarify your goals: Instead of thinking of your goals as vague ideas, determine exactly what you want. If you want money, how much do you want? If you want to lose weight, how much? Specify your goal in a measurable format.
Make a solid plan: The planning phase is very important. This is where you figure out how you’re going to get what you want. It’s as simple as choosing a path toward your goal and writing down each step you’ll need to take to achieve it.
Hold yourself to deadlines: Give yourself a reasonable amount of time to achieve each step and hold yourself accountable. When the going gets tough, just picture that big payoff you’ll enjoy when you get past your hurdles and achieve your goal.
Be prepared to deal with setbacks: Expect the unexpected. Sometimes, things go awry. When facing a setback, learn what you can from the situation and then fight your way back into the game. Most importantly, continue to believe in yourself. Each challenge you overcome makes you stronger.
Explore your options: Sometimes when your circumstances in life change, your priorities also change, and that’s okay! Never be afraid of reevaluating your situation and your goals. If you decide to take a different path in life, it’s your decision. Make new goals, and corresponding plans, for your new journey.
Be serious about your goals: When you feel that your goals are a priority, it’ll be easier for you to avoid procrastination. Taking your wants and needs seriously could make all the difference between reaching your goals or not.
Break your goal into smaller pieces: This tip is especially important when you’re pursuing a large goal. For example, if your goal is to go after a career that involves a great deal of specialized training, then make each type of training a goal in itself. Celebrate as you complete each step because you’re now one step closer to your dream!
Get the help you need: There are many people willing to help you reach your goals in life. Whether it’s someone to lean on to give you an extra confidence push, or someone to outsource work to, it’ll show you that you can count on others for help. With help, you can accomplish more.
It all comes down to your attitude. Once you’ve got your goals organized, if you have a positive mindset about achieving them, you’ll also have the drive necessary to keep working until you reach success. Take these strategies to heart, and live the life you desire – and deserve!
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About the Author: Dr. Brons is the Chief Learning Officer of Express Coaching™ and a working coach. Randin’s work goes far beyond the search for your life purpose – the difference is in learning to live by your own design. Visit his website at www.ajourneytojoy.com.
The Power of Action
by Evie Harrison, C.L.C., M.S.L.C.
Have you read all the books in the world about achieving success in life and till now you are getting zero results? How and when will you see significant changes in your life? Are you brave enough to keep going and never quitting?
If yes then, let me share with you the important factor that is tightly connected to success. No body can ever succeed without this factor.
Here it is:
“Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.” – Conrad Hilton
It is all about taking action!
Have you applied what you’ve read? Have you taken bold actions? Are you persistent enough?
The common characteristics of highly successful people are that they never quit and they always keep moving.
They are not afraid of making mistakes. They believe that mistakes are their vehicle to massive success. Therefore, they simply learn the lessons and keep moving.
If you are in a journey and discovered that you lost your way, stopping will not take you anywhere. You have to choose another direction and keep moving.
Being in motion is the only way that will allow you to reach your destination. You can take shortcuts, you can take a faster vehicle, or you can get a map to identify the shortest path. Whatever you choose to do, the most important thing is to keep moving and take action.
Successful people are action-oriented. They work very hard, they are determined, and they are focused.
To rise above mediocrity, learn from your mistakes, keep moving and never quit. This is your secret formula to taking powerful actions that will lead you to achieve massive success in your life.
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About the Author: Evie Harrison, C.L.C., M.S.L.C., is a Certified LIFE Coach and Master SPIRIT LIFE Coach who specializes in Career Coaching within the private sector. Evie has been a long-time graduate and friend of Express Coaching™ and we appreciate her return to our newsletter. You can contact the author through our corporate email: rhema-int@shaw.ca.
F.O.C.U.S.
Faith
Faith means to believe. In fact, the Bible says that faith is the evidence of things unseen. By using that definition, you can know that you don’t even have to see it to believe it. If you have a place you see yourself, but you’re not there yet, believe without a shadow of a doubt that you will reach that place, and you will. It’s called faith. But you must have unwaivering faith that you will achieve it. Do not get discouraged because it’s not happening fast enough. Faith = Believe and belief comes with hard core focus. Do not lose site of the goal.
Openness
To become successful – whatever that means to you – there is a universal principle that must be adopted in almost every area of your life. That principle can be called openness. Open to what? Good question. To everything really. That means being open to points of views that you would not necessarily agree with. That means being open to deals that may not seem attractive at first. You have to be open to:
- letting go
- embracing
- loving
- meeting new people
- disappointment
- success
- stretching
- loyalty
- loss
The point is, being open to everything is crucial. Expect no surprises. That way, when you ARE surprised, you’ll be able and more prepared to deal with it – good or bad.
Celebrate
While on the journey of success – and it is a journey – you’ve got to learn to celebrate. Celebrate your successes. That’s easy! Also, celebrate your trials, frustrations and trips ups. Why? You’re learning. Now, admittedly, celebrating during this process is a bit more difficult. It’s not natural to celebrate in any kind of negative mood.
But you could look at it as a silver lining. Even though you’re going through a particular frustration, you can always find comfort in the fact that you’ll have more information when dealing with a similar situation in the future. Focus on the future and the fact that you have more ammunition for success now.
Understand
Understand that focus is essential to getting what you want. How many times have you started an exercise program but never finished? How many times have you started a diet but never followed through? How many New Year’s resolutions have you set? How many have you completed?
Understanding focus is one of the main keys to success is a huge mindset to anchor. If you really understand it, you know that just the ‘knowing’ is not enough. Focus is a verb. And for it to effective means you have to – well. . . focus.
Focus means to cultivate a laser beam attention to the task at hand. Distractions can not enter and anything that will keep you from accomplishing your goal does not exist.
Understand that and you understand the essence of focus.
Success
Faith, Openness, Celebration and Understanding leads to Success. Once you’ve experienced success, don’t take it for granted. If you take it for granted, chances are you have no idea how you achieved the goal you were after.
Take a look back on your path up to your success and I bet you’ll find most of these points of achievement above.
Here’s to your success!
For now,
Dr. Randin Brons, Ph.D., C.M.H., M.S.L.C.
About the Author: Dr. Brons is the Chief Learning Officer of Express Coaching™ and a working coach. Randin’s work goes far beyond the search for your life purpose – the difference is in learning to live by your own design. Visit his website at www.ajourneytojoy.com.
How to Develop a Prosperity Mindset
Having a prosperity mindset is a key factor in reaching your financial goals. It keeps you on track toward your goals regardless of any challenges you encounter along the way.
These strategies below will help you foster a prosperity mindset that can enable you to live the life you desire.
Keep Your Focus
If you find that your mind wanders from idea to idea, create one set plan and stick to it. In your plan, create a list of specific achievable action steps that lead to your goal, and then work on at least one task each day to help maintain your focus.
Plan for Success
It doesn’t matter how focused you are if you don’t have a proper plan. Your financial goals aren’t going to happen just by deciding on a number. Make some clear plans on how you’re going to get there. This will get you past the dream phase so you can start making your ultimate goals a reality.
Be as detailed in your plan as possible and set each task as a mini-goal in itself. Achieving these small goals on a daily basis keeps you motivated and moving along toward your big goal.
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